We often reject and criticize ourselves without even realizing it. Some of us may accept a few parts of who we are, while others struggle to embrace even the smallest aspects of themselves. This internal rejection spills over into how we treat others—we criticize, judge, and try to change them, just as we do to ourselves. The root of this behavior lies in our inability to feel “good enough,” both for ourselves and for others.

The Never-Ending Cycle of Self-Judgment!
Have you ever noticed that when you’re alone, your mind often drifts to thoughts of self-criticism? We reflect on past decisions, believing we should have done things better. We judge our appearance, calling ourselves too fat or too thin, or thinking our bodies don’t match the ideal image in our minds. We criticize our behavior, our thoughts, and our emotions, and it feels like we’re never good enough.

This constant self-criticism creates a sense of never-ending frustration. We think we need to be more, do more, or achieve more to be successful and accepted by others. Without that, we convince ourselves that we’re unworthy, unattractive, or incapable. The result? We live in a state of misery, stress, and dissatisfaction.

Judging Others Mirrors How We Treat Ourselves!
Interestingly, this same pattern shows up when we interact with others. Whether it’s with friends, family, or strangers, we often find ourselves gossiping or judging them, criticizing their choices, their appearance, or how they live their lives. The way we criticize others mirrors the way we criticize ourselves—if not worse.

We talk about how someone has gained or lost weight, what they’ve done wrong, or how they don’t live up to our expectations. It’s a never-ending loop of judgment that drains our energy and keeps us locked in negativity. And yet, this behavior reflects an important truth: how we treat others is a direct reflection of how we treat ourselves.

The Power of Self-Acceptance!
The key message here is simple yet profound: if we stop criticizing ourselves, we will stop criticizing others. Everything starts from within. The more we focus on self-love, acceptance, and understanding, the less room there is for judgment—of ourselves or others.

When someone lives in a state of complete self-acceptance and love, criticism and judgment fade away. For that person, it becomes impossible to judge or criticize anyone, including themselves. They operate from a place of inner peace, understanding that everyone is on their own journey, and no one needs to be “fixed” or changed.

How to Break Free from Criticism!

* Shift Your Focus Inward – Start by paying attention to your inner dialogue. Notice when you’re being critical of yourself, and ask yourself why. Instead of judgment, practice self-compassion.

* Practice Self-Acceptance – Embrace who you are, flaws and all. Realize that perfection is a myth, and you are enough just as you are. The more you accept yourself, the less likely you are to criticize others.

* Choose Love Over Judgment – Every time you catch yourself judging someone else, pause. Reflect on how this behavior reflects your inner state. Can you choose love and understanding instead?

By shifting our focus inward and embracing self-love, we can break the cycle of criticism and judgment. We can create a life filled with acceptance, not only for ourselves but for everyone around us. This shift not only leads to personal freedom but also strengthens our relationships and brings more peace into our lives. Everything starts from within—change your inner world, and the outer world will change with it!

Love and Gratitude 
Natasha Bogdanoska